How To Work Towards Keeping Your Beauty

I’m not concerned about growing old but I am concerned about making sure that I take care of the vessel of which the Holy Spirit lives…my body, skin,etc. If we take care of our body, it empowers us to live abundantly as Christ has purposed. I came across this blog posting and found it very insightful. I shows simply steps that we can take to keep our skin healthy, regardless of our age.


By Robert Ghering
Your skin is the biggest organ in your body. It is alive, and it works hard for you every second of the day. It is important that you do all you can to take care of your skin. Your skin goes through a lot every day because it is subject to the harsh outdoor elements all the time. Poor skin can make you look older than your real age, and good skin can make you look younger. If you want that youthful look, go over the following tips to learn what you can do for your skin to keep it healthy.

Perhaps the most important thing you can do to preserve the youthfulness of your skin is to make sunscreen your constant companion. The sun has incredible potential to do major damage to the look and health of your skin, from premature wrinkling to unsightly spotting. Since…

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Little Things

I ran across this poem which shows the simplicity of life as we know and the Creator himself. Oh how GREAT is our God!

Beauty in broken things


Think of all those little things –

The things He didn’t have to make.

Each was crafted in its own exclusive mold:

Tiny caterpillars with stippled skin,

Golden freckles on a child’s cheek,

Delicate fossil, pearl or stone;

The elusive facets of a flower,

Or the varied tint of a thousand different eyes.


God didn’t have to create these slight details,

But He did.

He laid down each faultless touch for our pleasure;

And placed each little element of beauty to His world –

Hoping we’ll pause an instant in this busy life

To notice them.

~ Ilana Reimer

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Being Content…Regardless?

Being content…what a great phrase right?

I wonder if I was to ask someone who is homeless, being sexually abused, on death row and the likes, “are you content with where you are?”, what their answer will be.

I bet it would not be good. Some might disagree with the statement that I am about to make but its solely based on biblical scripture, “regardless of your situation, believers must be content!” What does content mean…

Content is defined as…

“A state of satisfaction”

What does the bible say about being content…

Philippians 4: 11-13:  11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.

Woe, that mindset is beyond current and modern popular belief. We’re bombarded with ideas demonstrating that a persons satisfaction or “content” should be based on their situation. I’ve lived for over 30 years and I’ve learned that living on this planet brings unforeseen situations. Regardless of one’s spirituality, everyone born of a woman must suffer, endure calamity, hardships and the trials of life. Face it, all will endure some type of issue or problem within your life, some great, some small. I disagree with the “worlds” belief that a persons satisfaction is solely based on their circumstance, amount of money or material wealth.

In the above scripture in Philippians, the Apostle Paul was imprisoned, beaten and threw out of various temples an innumerable amount of time. He endured massive hardship in his flesh while living but as he stated, he learned to be content “regardless of his circumstances”.

In being content, I’ve learned that I find “joy, peace, love, hope”, you name it. It brings a peace that no one can take from you. I’m at a stage in my life where God has brought me through so many things that when a new “thing” arises, I’m confident in his quick “action” on my behalf. If He did it “that” time, He can and will do it again.

Knowing and confidently residing in the blessed hope, trust and faith in what God can and will do, calms all fear, anxiety and worry. Perfect love casteth out all fear and God IS love! Fear is a result of a lack of trust in the Father God. Often we look at our circumstance and situation and it seems impossible and often “unsolvable”. After you’ve had experience with the master, you’ll see and understand His awesomeness!!

When I run across a brother or sister or non, that is going through a trial or temptation that they feel is unbearable, I try to reassure them that the Lord will not put any more on them than they can bear and that they should stand still and see the salvation of the Lord. Standing still requires being in a state of contentness.

I challenge everyone reading this post to think about their circumstance, consider the millions of people in the world who might be going through something more worse than you and meditate on YOUR many blessings, regardless of what you may see around you and in your circumstance. Once you do this, you will resort to being content…REGARDLESS!

Jane Carter Revitalizing Leave-In Conditioner REVIEW!!

I recently received my travel kit from Jane Carter and I was SO excited to start using their products. You can read my previous post to find out my review of their shampoo. But today, I’m going to let you guys know about their leave in. Here goes a list of its ingredients…

Deoionized Water, Extracts of Aloe Vera, Comfrey, Watercress, Myrrh, Panthenol, Chamomile, Comfrey, Horsetail, Nettle, Rosemary, Hops, Henna, Certified Organic Essential Oil: Lemon, Vanilla Extract, Polyquarternium11, Soyamid DEA, PPG30, Cetyl Ether, Oleth-3 Phosphate and Phenoxyethanol

As you can see, all of the above ingredients are good for all types of hair, but did it work on my coily fro-like hair texture? First of all, I PREFER creamy leave-ins and this one was not but I must say that I definitely LIKED IT!!!

I initially used it by itself(apart from mixing with my kimmaytube leave-in) to see if there was any validity to its greatness. After a couple of uses, I noticed that my hair was smoother and stronger. This led me to add it to my kimmaytube leave-in recipe to see if it would ‘gel’ good with that as well. After adding my leave-in ingredients to it, the consistency was a little bit more runny than my traditional leave in concoction but I LOVED IT!!

I will definitely purchase Jane Carter Revitalizing Leave-In to make it a part of my cabinet arsenal. So there goes my review of this awesome leave-in…toodles!

My Natural Hair Regimen

Being natural can be high-maintainence or low-maintainence, depending which route is best for that individual. I have a pretty hectic live, running a home business, assisting my husband in his business, ministry and foundation, as well as taking care of our 4 children’s. 


Can you believe that I’ve added, “PTA Board Member” to my list of already hectic “things to do”? I’m grateful for all that God has truly blessed me with. Being that I often do not have time to stick to “every little particular”, I have to keep my regimen, simple and basic! In addition, I do not have monthly budget of hundreds of dollars to spend on products, so I’ve almost tackled the art of budgeting to get the results that I am looking for. Here goes.

Every Week/2 Weeks- (depending on style and what’s going on)

  • Take hair down from previous style to get ready for wash
  • Apply oil and water pre-poo to hair, gentle remove tangles(if any) and as much shed hair as possible
  • Place hair in 8-10 large twists and or clips, place plastic cap on hair, leave on for 1 hour
  • Get in the shower, let the steam heat my hair for a couple of minutes(while in plastic cap)
  • Then proceed to rinsing my whole head with warm water for about 4-5 minutes
  • Gentle pull out remaining tangles/hairs
  • Shampoo(sulfate-free shampoo) or c-wash each section at a time, rinse, then apply conditioner
  • Begin detangling(while hair is soaking wet with conditioner) with a wide tooth comb(shower comb)
  • Place each section in either big twists or pin up with a clip
  • Continue with my shower cleaning(while my conditioner sits on my head)
  • Rinse out conditioner, get out, unravel each twist/section to apply my homemade deep conditioner recipe
  • Re-twist after putting my DC on, then put on my plastic cap 
  • Sit under the dryer for 30 minutes or let leave on for 2 hours(without sitting under the dryer)
  • Rinse out all of the conditioner, section by section
  • Style as usual(usually a protective style, twists, buns, etc.)


How To Detangle Black Hair In 4 Steps!

During my original attempt at going natural, a certain issued consistently remained difficult for me…DETANGLING!!At that time way back in 2003, I had not idea of how to detangle by dry, coarse, 4c type natural hair coils.  My hair would break and shed and this led to me ultimately re-applying relaxer. That was one of the biggest mistakes of my life! If I knew THEN what I know NOW, I would have remained a naturaly curly chic and my hair would be down to my waist by now(no pun intended). Now, after being natural for 3 years(this second go round), I’ve learned a lot about detangling.Natural black hair is very fragile, contrary to popular belief. Most believe that natural hair is not prone to breakage because of its seemingly appearance of strength but coils and kinks are sensitive to breakage even more than other types! Because of this, those with natural hair need to be extremely gentle and cautious when detangling to prevent breakage. I’ve almost gotten it down to a fine science and my hair has definitely thanked me for it by growing and remaining healthy. If your experiencing problems with detangling your natural hair, I’ve put together a short list on how to detangle natural black hair in breeze,easily and conveniently!
1. Use Detangling Tools!

-Regardless of which tool you choose, make sure to pick one that is keen on helping detangle your hair. There are various one’s currently available including a your fingers, shower comb, ouidad double detangler, denman brush, tangle teaser and others. I prefer to use a shower comb to detangle my 4c hair after I’ve used my fingers to detangle, remove tangles and remove any knots that are present

2. Detangle In Small Sections!

-I usually part my hair into medium size sections before detangling. I will either twist, braid or use a hair clip to keep each section in place as I detangle.

3. Use Water & Detangling Agent!

-Some choose to use a conditioner designed specifically for detangling, regular(cheapie) conditioner or water/oil concoctions or mixtures. Since my hair is thick and coarse, I find that using a water-based conditioner like Suave Naturals or any cheapie conditioner works best for my hair. I usually detangle my hair only on wash days after I’ve washed my hair. After shampooing, while my hair is dripping wet, I apply cheapie conditioner, make sure my hair is saturated and began detangling.

4. Detangle From The Ends Up!

-This is where most people fall off. Because of time, frustration or lack of patience, we tend to want to bypass this necessary step. Regardless of hair type, detangling from the ends up to the root makes ANY detangling session so much easier. You see less hair breakage, less shed hairs and less matting. By doing this, you ensure that you are properly detangling your hair.

Trimming Natural Hair- A Quick Guide Tutorial

Let me start off by stating that split ends is the Achilles heal of the curly and natural hair world. It much easier for the strands of a curly haired individual to wrap itself around another, making hair more prone to split ends. The tighter or curlier the coil(see Hair Type Chart), the more prone. Cutting or trimming natural hair split ends will keep these little rascals at bay. Not doing so will not promote growth or help retain length. It’s the direct opposite. Hair grows at an average of 1/4 to 1/2 a month regardless of what you do. Some will see more growth by taking certain steps but all hair grows around the length per month. Letting split ends go without trimming in an effort to save or “salvage” your hair, will promote and increase breakage and further damage. If this happens, you will have to go to a professional hair care salon for them to do a major cut! Let’s take a look at what split ends really are.

Split Ends Are….

-hair strands that are split at the ends and continue up the shaft.

-formed when the inside of the hair shaft or cortex split, traditionally a the ends

Popular Causes of Split Ends Are….

-excessive use of curling irons, hot irons, electrical heat products, blow dryers, pressing combs and the likes

-stressful hair techniques, including improper or harsh detanglling and combing, excessive combing and brushing

-stressful hair styles, including wearing a particular style for long periods of time, example: wearing tight ponytails for an extended time-frame.

-Damage to the cortex and cuticle caused by harsh chemical treatments, such as relaxers, permanent dyes, etc.

-Faulty and incorrect use of barrettes and bobby pins.

-Hard water and swimming pool water. All of these are filled with chlorine and if used or done too often, it can damage the cortex of the hair strand, ultimately causing split ends.


Here is a photo of various types of split ends…


With natural or curly hair, sometimes, the split ends manifest is what we call “fairy knots“. I hate these little boogers. Fairy Knots or “single strand knots” are knots that are present on the hair strand. They can be found in various spots on the hair strands, including, the ends, middle or top. The upper knots are caused when the end of the shaft have already split up! These are a direct result of split ends. In order to keep these to a minimum, I recommend trimming them!

If asked, most believe the myth that there are miracle products that “get rid of split ends”. This is far from the truth. There are no product known to man that can get rid of these, regardless of what a product advertises. There are some that are on the market to help keep hair conditioned and moisturized, keeping wear and tear low, decreasing one’s chancing of getting split ends. Let’s see proven ways to avoid split ends on natural hair.

Way To Prevent Split Ends Are….

-Keep ends moisturized by applying a water-based moisturizer or water, then sealing them with an oil(grease, coconut oil, grapeseed oil, olive oil, castor oil, etc.) or cream sealant. Dry ends lends to split ends. By keeping hair ends moisturized, you can prevent or minimize split ends. I use my Shea Butter mixture recipe to seal my hair after either applying moisture, a water-based leave-in or Kimmaytube leave-in recipe. If you choose to wear heated styles, try styles that require less heat such as strawsets and rollersets.

-Stay away from excessive heat. Delete or keep heat usage to a minimum. I only use a blow dryer once or twice a year to do something different with my hair and I only flat iron once a year. Find a regimen that will avoid or keep it down!

-Wear protective styles! This has been a lifesaver for my 4c, coily hair. Protective styles are style also known as “leave it alone” styles. They are styles that you do where your ends are protected and or tucked away, preventing them from being exposed to the elements of nature, rubbing up against your clothing and they help to retain hair moisture. These include, buns, twists, braids, cornrows, updos, etc.

-Maintainence the ends of your hair. After initially trimming off the split ends of your hair, the job is not over! You should trim on a regular basis to prevent future split ends from occurring. Using these preventative measures will ensure the salvage of your delicate ends, thus improve growth retention. The ends of your hair are the oldest part of your hair and needs proper care, moisture and conditioning to decrease splitting and breaking. Be gentle with your hair,it will hate you if you handle it rough. When its feeling dry, try using deep conditioning treatments, your hair will love it!

-Seasonal weather protection. During the extreme heat of the summer and dry, harsh cold temps of the winter, our hair is extremely prone to becoming dry and brittle, which can lead to breakage.In the summer and winter months, take extra precaution by applying a moisturizer or leave in before leaving the house.

-Stay away from rubber bands!! Use Ouchless ponytail holders or elastics instead. Rubber bands lead to breakage.

-Dust in between trims. Some mistake dusting for trimming. Dusting is trimming only approximately 1/8 inch off the ends. Only do this if your ends are in good shape for maintainence and keep split ends from having the chance to form.

-Replace faulty bobby pins and barrettes immediately! If you’ve noticed that the heads of your bobby pins are missing, throw them away. When they get like this, using them will definitely cause breakage and split ends. You can buy a pack of 100 for around $2.

There are numerous ways that you can trim your natural hair. Many choose to go to a professional and let them do it but many, including myself, can afford often visits to the salon. I’m living on a budget! Also, so many naptural’s and curlies have went to the salon only to leave with a cut instead of a trim. Some stylists become “scissor happy” in my opinion. A decent trim is 1/4-1/2 depending on the amount needing to be trimmed or damaged. With that being said, you can trim your own hair just as efficiently as going to the salon. A trim

Four DIY Ways To Trim Split Ends

1. Braid and Trim: This involves braiding your hair into small or medium braids and trimming the ends. See a pic below of how to determine how much of the braid is actually split ends.

2. Twist and Trim: This involves putting hair into small or medium twist sections. This method is similar to the braid method mentioned above but using twists instead.

3. Search and Destroy: This is coined “search and destroy” because it involves searching your hair to find split ends on each curl. S&D’s are time consuming, tedious and not for the faint of heart. Furthermore, it should only be used if you have a visible curl pattern not coils. Those with looser curl patterns, like type 2-4a hair types, can really be successful at this method. Its harder for those of us with type 4b/c hair to do this only because its hard to actually see the split end at the end of each strand. Our hair is coily so its hard to see each curl.

4. Blow Dry/Straighten then Trim: Many prefer to blow dry or straighten their hair in order to trim the split ends. If you usually wear your hair straight, you might find that this is the best technique for you. This involves blow drying and or flat-ironing/straightening your hair, combing or brushing to the ends of small sections, holding the ends in your fingers then trimming the split portion.

Tips, Tips and more Tips!!:

*Always trim your hair with hair shears. Avoid regular scissors because they can cause rips and tears within the hair strand causing additional split ends or breakage.

*Sit up and sit straight when trimming so that your hair can be even all over. If you have shorter hair, ask a friend or family member to help, especially in the back.

*Take your time and be patient when trimming

*You can trim on wet or dry hair. I prefer trimming on dry hair, especially when doing the braid or twist and trim method. It’s makes seeing the split ends easier.

*Trim only the amount needed, as often as needed. Try to find a trimming regimen that works for you and your hair. I trim my hair once every three months, unless I see an increasing number of knots and ball.